Anyone for Wabi Sabi Love?

I am currently in Asheville, NC where they have an exceptional bookstore called Malaprops.  This is a great name for a bookstore because the definition of Malapropism is a mistaken use of a word in place of a similar sounding one.  As an example, “You could have knocked me over with a fender”.

The homey bookstore is well-known and much beloved.  It is an intimate place where you can find a nook with a comfortable chair, and read till your heart’s content.  What also brings people in, are the many visiting authors who give talks.  It’s a literary and social sanctuary for anyone living in the vicinity.  You can find Malaprops teeming with people a few nights a week, waiting expectantly for the night’s discussion.  It sometime brings big names in, and then you’d be lingering on the street with hopes that someone will open the door and you can hear part of the presentation.

One night, while waiting for the speaker of the evening, I chanced upon a book called,  “Wabi Sabi Love: The ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in an Imperfect Relationship”, by Arielle Ford.  Okay, the title intrigued me, and it sounded like a malapropism anyway.  Really, it was about using the ancient Japanese aesthetic called, Wabi Sabi  which is used a metaphor to find beauty and perfection in imperfection.  Most of us can manage to admit they have imperfect relationships.  Oh come on and fess up.  There’s usually a crack or imperfection at some point, whether the relationship is romantic or otherwise.  The author, Ms. Ford asks you to consider learning to love the cracks in yourself and in your partner. In fact, she explains, the Japanese often highlight the imperfection or flaw in a rare vase by putting a spotlight directly on it.

This whole concept is about a shift in our perception of things.  There was even a scientific study done at the University of Buffalo in which they found that couples who wore “rose colored glasses” in their relationships, were happier and more satisfied with their lives. They called it the “Pygmalian Effect”.

Begin to look for what’s right in your personal and business relationships, not what’s wrong.  Consider looking at all the positive things about yourself without dwelling on your own imperfections.  It just seems to make sense.


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