The Case of the Finial

My friend, a sales associate at a well-known home furnishings store was recently stalked by an irrational woman whose venomous insults were promulgated by a simple and polite request to desist from taking the finials (those cute little decorative nobs that screw into the top of lamps).  After unscrewing them she put them in her pocket. This was the beginning of my  friend having to deal with an emotionally disturbed woman whose thrill in life seemed to have been victim/victimizer role playing.

As the story goes, my friend, who I’ll call Alice to protect her identity from the finial thief, makes sure merchandise goes back to the proper shelves unbroken, unmolested and unpilfered by the seething crowds who come in for the great bargains. Alice encountered some flack lately in the guise of a lady with a true sense of entitlement, not to mention sticky fingers.  Alice asked the shopper to please stop removing the finials. To anyone’s eyes, she looked like a thief and when politely asked (as in management policy) to please put the finials back on the respective lamps, the woman began throwing very colorful, cringe-worthy language at Alice.

In shock, Alice walked off to report the incident to the manager of the store and when the thief in question processed the Big Picture, she quickly threw the finials back on the ground and walked out of the store in a huff yelling that she’d be back soon to “straighten that bitch out.” One could only think she meant my friend.  And, back she came the next day to wreak more vengeance.

Now, why do I tell this narrative?  Incidences of much greater import happen on a daily basis to many of us. I count road rage in that category.  I would find it quite difficult to say a kind word to an individual who cuts me off and gives me the finger because I’m driving 5 miles below the speed limit.  I realize saying a kind word sometimes neutralizes the situation and is a powerful tool when you think about it but it really is hard to get your mouth and your emotional body around the idea.

Angry, irrational, and rude people will test the stamina of many of us because to acknowledge another individual’s humanity is often outside our comfort zone, particularly when we feel attacked.  Yet, it is probably the most powerful opportunity to generate change within ourselves.  The more of us that invest in this type of behavior –that of kindness and forgiveness—invokes a field resonance. As it expands from one individual to the next, the resonance increases. It has a ripple effect that seems to grow in strength.

Many of us understand that the frequency of the planet is rising and anyone who is still asleep will get a little nudge to awaken from their ‘fog.’  These individuals become touched. Perhaps these people may define this as a personality crisis as their belief structures are altered and they are suddenly confused. Call it cognitive dissonance as they will experience a feeling of well-being out of nowhere. This is probably quite confusing for a person who has been beaten down throughout their lives and most likely very helpful for people who have been traumatized or who live in perpetual fear.  This is a time of increasing responsibility for those of us to do what we are here to do which is to create a more loving and harmonious world as we transition to a more conscious society.

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